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Career Choice: The Dilemma That Stays Within Us


Career Choice: The Dilemma That Stays Within Us

Although ‘Career’ is a much talked about subject in our life, but the concept is not always very clear to us. We often get confused between job and career. Social and occupational prestige also create dilemmas in us. As a result, we pick up something which does not agree with our strengths and uniqueness. As a consequence, in the long run, either we want to get rid of what we have chosen or we somehow manage to live with it by compromising our happiness. However, without happiness, reaching at the peak is difficult. So in nutshell, our potential remain unutilised. This article attempts to throw a light on this aspect.

Recently, I came across a post on a social media forum a young girl has posted, indicating her confusion with regard to her career. The post sounds something like below:

“Hi all, I am a B. Tech student. However, I don’t want to work in tech jobs. Can anyone of you please advise me what should I do?”

Due to having a keen interest on anything related to the concept of career, I stopped by. Such situation is not very uncommon in today’s world. I am sure, many of you (including me) also experienced the similar situation in different phases of our life – either with our own selves or with our near & dear ones or with our acquaintances.

I was about to attempt to analyze what can be done to make a course correction. But, then I took a pause. I always feel, before coming to any solution, a root cause analysis is a very essential approach to uproot the problem. Otherwise, only symptoms will be resolved and that too, on a temporary basis.

On this journey of root cause analysis, it became prominent that there could be many reasons for taking up a study stream or profession which may turn out not so interesting at the later stage, like :

  1. Social n Occupational Prestige: Some professions are under some social spotlight like being in medical, engineering, law, army, navy, so on and so forth. However, there are thousands of other professions too, which can be chosen as career and people can become successful in those arena. Are we aware of their existence? 
  1. Peer Pressure: We often select something by being impulsive when we see most of our friends, or our cousins or our family members or previous generation has chosen that. We feel that those professions are in our blood and we will be successful for sure without an iota of doubt. But, is that the case always? 
  1. Imposition of Parents’ Ambition: In many a cases we get burdened by our parents ambition. I can recall that my niece wanted to become a nurse. When I asked her the reason, she mentioned it is her mother’s wish which she wants to fulfill. Fulfilling parents’ wish is not a bad idea at all. But are our wishes & strength also aligned with our parents’ wishes? Do we have the competence to take that ahead? Are we leveraging our strengths by doing that? Is there any uniqueness in me being neglected by doing so? Questions to ask self. 
  1. Parents’ awareness: Our preparation for career starts at the very early age, even before we properly realize and understand that. The first step towards it is when we choose our educational stream / specialization after our / our children’s study on general subjects. But how much awareness do we have, as a parent, about the career options available for our beloved children? 
  1. Availability of Facility in the neighborhood Zone : It also happens that the colleges at our nearby area do not offer the subjects we wish to study and pursue as a career in future. 
  1. Marks of the Entrance Exam become Selection Criteria: It is not uncommon that we are chosen for a subject of study or a stream rather than we choose them. When we apply for further studies in colleges, different aptitude tests play a great role. And, there our proficiency becomes the criteria to be chosen. 

There are many other reasons. But, above are the more prominent ones.

So, to win over, we – both the students and the parents – really need to be aware and make adequate preparations. A fulfilling and successful career is a journey by itself with strategic planning and apt execution honoring the time line. Ignorance can kill our aspiration at the very budding stage.

A very clear conception on below questions, I feel, can give a good head start:

  1. What does a ‘Career’ mean to me?
  2. What is the definition of ‘Success’ as per my values, priorities and preferences?
  3. What do we really enjoy doing?
  4. Are we good at what we enjoy doing?
  5. If the answer of the previous question is ‘yes’, how good are we on a scale of 1 to 10? Is there any scope of further improvement?
  6. If the answer is ‘no’ to the fourth question, how do we bridge the gap to become competent of what we enjoy doing?
  7. It is also worth checking the market demand for the profession we love – both the present as well as the future demand. For that, we may need to seek help from the experts.
  8. Have you ever thought of / dreamt of having your own business instead of getting into a job?

Taking some time out and pondering over these thoughts can really give valuable insights.

These questions are even equally important to those, who are looking for a transition from one profession to others – A foundation of a successful and happy career.

Do we want to become successful without being happy? Or, would we be able to become successful when we are unhappy? To me, the answer is a big ‘no’. Therefore, it’s time to take a step to be happy and to be successful, together!

I am Jayati Mukherjee - a corporate professional with over 17+ yrs experience in diverse organisations in both HR & non-HR scope. Presently I am working as a Manager - Human Resources with a World leading MNC. I am highly inclined to the subject Career Management, which caters to starting from proper 'Career Identification' to detailed and judicious 'Planning' to careful 'Development' and finally 'Sustenance through success & perseverance'. Other than my regular job, I was also associated with a Mumbai - Bandra based NGO "Welfare Society for Destitute Children - St. Catherine's Home, Siena" for a significant period as a mentor for their students' Career Planning & Skill Building. Academically, I have completed M.Sc (Biochemistry) and stood 1st class 1st. Later, over the period of time, I acquired PGDM (HR) from Prin. L Welingkar Institute of Management Development & Studies and Executive Certification on Talent Management from XLRI. I love travelling to serene hilly hamlets and also to pen down my thoughts whenever it strikes a cord. I am a foodie too.



  1. Kejal

    February 22, 2018 at 9:00 pm


    • Jayati Mukherjee

      February 22, 2018 at 10:08 pm

      Thank you Kejal !

  2. Kumar Saurabh

    February 22, 2018 at 9:36 pm

    Such a wonderful write and everyone who is on crossoad, must read this article.

    • Jayati Mukherjee

      February 22, 2018 at 10:07 pm

      Thank you so much for your encouragement and appreciation ! With sincere regards, jayati

  3. Hrishikesh Lavhare

    February 22, 2018 at 11:26 pm

    Nice thoughts written precisely

    • Jayati Mukherjee

      February 23, 2018 at 8:50 am

      Thank you for liking it !!

  4. Arijit Paul

    February 23, 2018 at 12:05 am

    truly indeed…

    • Jayati Mukherjee

      February 23, 2018 at 8:50 am

      Thank you for liking it !!

      • Akshay Shirbhate

        February 23, 2018 at 5:11 pm

        Great content👍👍

        • Jayati Mukherjee

          February 24, 2018 at 12:38 am

          Glad that you liked it !!

  5. Nishikant

    February 23, 2018 at 6:36 pm

    Successful and Happy at the same time..I choose.. awesome article 👍

    • Jayati Mukherjee

      February 24, 2018 at 12:39 am

      Glad that you could select being happy and successful together !!

  6. Prateek Gupta

    February 28, 2018 at 2:35 pm

    Well written Jayati.. The article is a good start for anyone and everyone who is looking at a right direction / choice in his career.

    • Jayati Mukherjee

      March 9, 2018 at 6:45 pm

      Thanks Prateek 🙂

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